The spouse conundrum - a way to peace and happiness

In the 33+ years I've been in AA, Alanon and OA, I've heard many people share of how they feel their spouse is a mis-fit. I was one of those people, so much so, my first marriage ended in acrimony.

...... The 12 steps are the only method I've come across (and I've participated in many many many 'courses'!) that effectively takes my gaze inwards, even for the most un-initiated. Such as addicts, alcoholics and co-dependents. No wonder there are so many 12-step fellowships around!

AA's Oldest Sober Living person's sane advise. Is the fellowship listening?

This is my humble request to all the old timers to come out of their lairs and pay back to mother AA whatever it has given to them years ago. She is in great distress in our country today. Please speak out, write, express your candid opinions in all the languages given to us by God, since only we can convey the AA message effectively to the alcoholics who are still suffering. Only we can keep the fellowship safe and strong. These little bullies dare not come anywhere near us, the bigger bullies, of days gone by. Haven’t we died several times during our drunken days in the past? My understanding of an alcoholic is that basically he is a fearless killer, killer for a good cause after he becomes sober and also ready to lay down his life for others. Our responsibility in AA ends only when we breathe our last, and so we must continue to work for AA for our own personal sobriety and for the sobriety of all those practicing alcoholics who are ignorantly suffering. That would be the greatest contribution of our lives to our family, to our society and to our country, India, and to the AA fellowship in the world at large...... John K.

My first conversation with an AA member...

When I am running my own business, many times I use to see one of my frend taking different people to some ware from a near by hospital. One day I asked him. He told me little about program. I felt my friend was doing good social work (as we both were participating in AOL organisation cources). Later came to know what he was doing. He was in AA science long back